WHEN BEING NICE IS DANGEROUS I spoke with a woman who spent 10 years in a relationship with an abusive, covert narcissist. I asked her – ‘Do you have the tendency to be attracted to bad boys? Or difficult boys?’ “No,” she replied honestly. “I’ve never been attracted to bad boys, in fact I love […]

PHYSICAL ABUSE – Leaves scars, a trail of proof that cannot be denied. VERBAL ABUSE – Can be heard not only by the abused but others as well; it can also be recorded with a phone, revealed in texts and/or emails – it too leaves a trail. EMOTIONAL ABUSE – is a silent killer. An […]

  While men have a reputation for putting more emphasis on the physical appearance of their significant others, and many have put up with abusive treatment longer than desired because of the beauty of their partner – there are also many OTHER REASONS why men stay in abusive relationships – and they have nothing to […]

WHEN MEN ARE VICTIMS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE While so much information and resources are available for women who have been victims of emotional abuse, whether from narcissistic men or any cluster b personality; men often find themselves suffering in silence. Most men do not report or seek help for abuse for a variety of reasons: […]

Often I am asked by mothers leaving narcissistic partners, if going back to live with Mom is a good idea even if she displays narcissistic tendencies. It’s very tempting to grasp hold of an outreached hand when you are in need, have little ones to care for and feel all alone as if the world […]

Every now and then I meet someone who tells me that they stayed with the narcissist because they thought that if they loved the narcissist enough, then maybe, possible, hopefully? they would change!! The sad part is that if you have ever given thought to such a thing, you  are thinking, doing and feeling EXACTLY […]

Why are Narcissists Attracted to Spiritual People? Narcissists engage in spiritual abuse! They love to twist scripture to their convenience, spiritually  condemn their loved ones while all the while stealing the hearts of kind people within the faith-based community. Here are 5 reasons as to why a narcissist is attracted to a spiritual person: 5: SPIRITUAL PEOPLE […]

 You have filed the papers….everything is in order. The apartment is smaller than the house you left behind, but it’s so cozy….and peaceful without the yelling, anger hanging in the air, depression, pain, hurtful words, tear stained pillows. Yes, this small apartment is a tiny piece of heaven…and with your little ones slowly adapting to […]

CODE OF SILENCE In order to have success in continual, prolonged and systematic abuse of their victims, narcissists need to establish complete control over them. A code of silence, exhibited among the mafia and known as the code of Omerta is an excellent way to hide abuse, isolate victims and allow the narcissist to continue […]