I know that many individuals that watch my YouTube channel are already out of toxic relationships and are on the road to recovery. However, so many are still in relationships with malignant narcissists – not by choice but due to circumstance.
Now more than ever is it difficult to have toxic family member. Due to the coronavirus and recommended isolation, many people are forced to spend more than the normal amount of time with people that live to break, destroy and drain them of their emotional vitality.
Without any external positive supply, malignant narcissists are now limited and only able to extract negative supply from their family. What is the difference between each source of supply?
Malignant narcissists get positive supply when others admire them, look at them as if they are God’s gift to the lowly ones of this planet, as if the sun rises and sets thanks to them. Flying monkeys, co workers that are being love bombed etc. are excellent sources of this positive supply. But now – being forced to work from home – this source has been eliminated.
Negative supply comes from the malignant narcissists ability to provoke an otherwise normally calm person into losing their cool, a soft spoken person into screaming and yelling, a peace seeking person into a raging, highly triggered out of control ‘lunatic’. When a narcissist is able to provoke you to be something you are not, better yet – when a narcissist is able to provoke you into being…. them… well, that is power to the drama addicted narcissist. The more you act like them – the more they adopt your positive qualities. It is a personality swap designed to drive anyone to lose their mind!
However, there is one positive thing that I like about malignant narcissists. Yes, you read correctly – there is one thing I like about them: They are the most predictable personalities in existence. Which means, once you understand their dynamics you CAN apply tools that do NOT change the narcissist, but they DO change YOU!!!
Malignant narcissists only have such power over others when people are not aware of their manipulation tactics nor how to respond to them. Once you learn, it is a game changer. By applying tools that are designed to starve narcissistic supply while empowering you – your life can begin to shift in a way that you never imagined!!
Knowledge is power – but wisdom is the application of knowledge! Apply the tools learned and you will get your life back.
Nobody understands what you're going through more than someone who has been there. I grew up with narcissistic family member and had intimate relationships with malignant narcissists. For the majority of my healing journey, I felt as if I was all alone. I now dedicate my life to being the person for others, that I needed on my own healing journey, so that YOU never feel alone.