What does it mean to be ‘crazy’? Some synonyms are: derailed, not in one’s right mind, unbalanced, unstable, disturbed, distracted… you get the idea.
We often think of emotional abuse as abuse that leaves no physical scars. However, as more information is spread regarding the depth of damage done due to chronic stress that often occurs behind closed doors, we are learning more and more what narcissistic abuse and coercive emotional abuse do the body. There are physical scars, you may not be able to see them with the naked eye but they exist, they are very real and they are extremely dangerous to the health of victims of hidden emotional abuse.
I’m not a neuroscientist, but I have come to learn what happens to our brains when under abuse. Just as alcohol has the ability to shrink and change the structure of the brain – chronic abuse changes the structure of the brain as well.
The emotional brain enlarges and takes over while eclipsing the logical brain. Rather than go into depth about the amygdala, hippocampus, limbic system, reptilian brain etc., if your brain has been affected by chronic, unrelenting coercive abuse this is what it looks like:
If any of this sounds familiar – this happens because trauma changes the structure of our brain – it takes away the brains executive functioning and well. when your brain is not functioning the way it is supposed to – you feel crazy, others begin to wonder what is wrong with you and sadly the abusive person loves this because all of the attention is on what is wrong with you as opposed to WHY you have changed.
Emotional abuse creates trauma – trauma changes the brain. Thankfully, thanks to neuroplasticity it is possible to reverse the damage. There are two ways to address the problem – from a top to bottom approach as well as a bottom up approach to healing.
If anyone would like to try the bottom up approach, please check out my course entitled Breakthrough Cptsd: http:// https://self-love-narcissistic-abuse-recovery.teachable.com/
Nobody understands what you're going through more than someone who has been there. I grew up with narcissistic family member and had intimate relationships with malignant narcissists. For the majority of my healing journey, I felt as if I was all alone. I now dedicate my life to being the person for others, that I needed on my own healing journey, so that YOU never feel alone.