I received an email in response to a reader of the book Dating Harley Quinn which basically stated that any man that would go through what this true story portrays – would go mgtow.
What is mgtow and could there be a connection between the acronym – which stands for -Men Going Their Own Way and female narcissistic abuse?
That was my question and I searched this whole weekend for a connection between why men would reject relationships with women, and purposely choose to be alone rather than chance starting another relationship with the potential of finding a loving, healthy, reciprocal relationship.
The more I read, the more personal experiences I learned about, the more I was convinced that so many of these guys fell into the claws of female narcissists and hadn’t realized what happened. If you are a guy raised by a female narcissist, possibly codependent because of the mother son dynamics that narcissistic mothers create – then sadly, it’s quite likely that a guy like that, winds up dating women with those same characteristics – you know, the kind of woman that is the sun and you are expected to revolve around; the kind of woman that is oblivious to your needs (you mean you have needs?) yes the kind of woman that only TAKES in a relationship and gives only crumbs of what love may appear to be like. Narcissistic women fuel themselves by breaking a guy over and over, and just when he feels broken and has one foot out the door…..narcissistic women relish in the power of being able to convince the guy to trust her and love her one more time. How empowering it is for these women to fool a man once again, the only vendetta is to break him even more.
Now imagine you are that guy – and this is ALL you know!!
Mgtow begins to sound really, really good at this point. And for some, they are happy being alone and that’s ok. But if you’re not…..
That’s why knowledge regarding narcissistic abuse – especially the emotional, psychological abuse that narcissistic women inflict on men is so vital.
If you do not know or recognize that you have been raised by a toxic, narcissistic mother and then dated narcissistic women or borderlines, histrionics or any cocktail of cluster b’s – then you are bound to give up and think ALL women are evil, toxic, soul sucking creatures not worth the time of day. Sadly, there are a lot of narcissists out there, but there are also a lot of amazing people as well. True strength and healing doesn’t come from cutting oneself off from society, rather it comes from having the inner strength to live among society yet still be able to carve out a life in which you feel happy, enriched and have embraced a life that is truly rewarding.
Nobody understands what you're going through more than someone who has been there. I grew up with narcissistic family member and had intimate relationships with malignant narcissists. For the majority of my healing journey, I felt as if I was all alone. I now dedicate my life to being the person for others, that I needed on my own healing journey, so that YOU never feel alone.