Why Teens Commit Suicide: How narcissistic parents can increase suicide rates

By Michele Nieves | Narcissist Traits

Aug 01

When we analyze the top 10 reasons why teens commit suicide….and then we add in the fact that one of the parents is a narcissist..we can see how quickly the likelihood of a teen victim of narcissism can cause a teen to see suicide as the only way out.

10. BULLYING: There is no question to the fact that kids can sometimes be the meanest beings to one another. From name calling, to embarrassing pranks, physical attacks, bullying erodes a teens self esteem and confidence making going to school as stressful as going to a war zone. Imagine now a teen that is being bullied at school..coming home to a parent that is narcissistic. The narcissits only sees his/her own feelings. Any complaints or search for help either falls on uninterested ears or worse yet..the child will somehow be blamed for the problems at school

Depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and other disorders can cause the brain to function differently and can lead to suicidal thoughts. Now imagine having a narcissistic parent that uses you as their dumpster for all of their pathological thinking and behavior…in other words they lethally force you to carry their sickness for them…very often having a narcissistic parent causes a child to become narcissistic himself and/or cause mental handicaps.

It is in the teen years that people come to terms with their sexuality. For some that struggle with their sexual orientation and fearing their families and/or friends reactions causes them to feel isolated and shamed. Throw a narcissistic parent, especially a cerebral narcissist, into the mix and feeling comfortable with your sexuality, regardless of what it is, is almost impossible. A narcissist feels that sex is demeaning and degrading, to them it’s “dirty”, and sinceDD they project their feelings into their children…teens carry shame that does not belong to them.


A narcissistic parent has two personalities, the “charming” one that they portray to others and the abusive one that children are forced to endure and hide. Feeling as if no one will believe them if they tell others that their “perfect” parent is abusive, some see no other solution than to end it all.


It is in the teen years that people discover the effects of alcohol and drugs. What starts out as being “cool” or simply “experimenting” can lead to addiction and/or overdose. And when a child has a narcissistic parent that makes living at home possible, this often leads to teen substance abuse in order to numb the pain.


When parents divorce, a teen often times automatically takes the blame and feels as if it is all his/her fault. Divorce is bad enough, yet being in the middle of parents divorcing when one is a narcissist…throw in the fact that the narcissist feels no qualms spreading a smear campaign against his ex spouse and the child if the child does not do or say exactly what that parent wants in court. The narcissistic parent not only divorces the spouse but often times if the child is not on his/her “side”, that child is treated as if he/she is dead.


Today parents have little time to be there emotionally for their children. Teens feel “invisible” as if their existence doesn’t matter…and parents fail to recognize the signs. A narcissistic parent lives their life making sure the scapegoat does not ever feel “alive and thriving.” Their emotional needs are ignored, sneered at and often the teen is blamed for even having feelings and needs.


Sexual abuse damages a child not only physically but emotionally as well. The unimaginable pain they feel causes them to view suicide as the only way out. And if they dare share this pain with a narcissistic parent, they are often blamed for the abuse only intensifying suicidal thoughts and feelings.


Teens now live half of their life on social networking sites as opposed to with actual people. Being cyber bullied is as intense as being bullied in person and has the same damaging effects. When someone is bullied they need to seek out help, however if a parent is a narcissist instead of help, the NP will often join the side of the bullies and ridicule the teen, and then turn around and say that the child is simply too sensitive, that they were “joking.” This causes a teen to never feel validated, breaks self esteem and diminishes any hope for the future.


Often called the silent killer, stress can wreak havoc on a teen. Pressure to get good grades, to get into college, to pick a career, to not let their parents down can all weigh on the shoulders of a teen. Now imagine all of those pressures combined with the stress of walking on egg shells every minute of your existence when you have a narcissistic parent.



About the Author

Nobody understands what you're going through more than someone who has been there. I grew up with narcissistic family member and had intimate relationships with malignant narcissists. For the majority of my healing journey, I felt as if I was all alone. I now dedicate my life to being the person for others, that I needed on my own healing journey, so that YOU never feel alone.

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