Is it me …..or do those glasses look as if they are on my face upside down? Lol.
Yes…my elementary years were not my most flattering.
And yet there is a fundamental truth that every child deserves to have, and that a narcissistic parent is unable to instill in their children and that is: EVERY CHILD IS BEAUTIFUL!!!
Beauty does not start from the surface and grow inward….it starts from within and extends outward to our facial expressions, our posture…our smile.
Have you ever seen a child that may not have “model like features” and yet that child radiates confidence and self love and others seem to gravitate to that person? That comes not from being attractive on the outside…it comes from good parenting…when you are able to help your child feel beautiful from the inside out so that the child radiates a healthy self esteem.
In fact it’s that inner beauty that often captures the attention of others….
On the other hand have you ever seen someone with attractive features….yet there’s something about them that often gets overlooked. Maybe its the hunched shoulders that desperately try to protect the weak self esteem, or the lack of eye contact, the smile that simply displays teeth yet lacks a shine in the eyes…..It’s as if this person has absolutely no glow, no shine or spark and therefore gets overlooked by healthy people of the opposite sex… all the while being a honing device for a narcissist.
A narcissistic parent does not build up their child in order to help them achieve a healthy self esteem….rather their child is like a garbage collector for all of the unhealthy emotions that the narcissist possesses. When a narcissistic parent feels jealous of their child they accuse the child of being jealous. When a narcissistic parent feels ugly or fat…the child is criticized for it. When a narcissistic parent feels dirty…the child is accused of something to invoke that shame.
The results are a catastrophic assault to a child’s self esteem…which only sets the child to attract unhealthy people into their lives. We attract what we often feel inside…..